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October 12th, 2005
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It's interesting how a blog evolves. Initially, it's assumed that no-one's going to read the damn thing, and people tend to put some very personal things floating out on the internet. As it develops, and as you get used to writing more frequently, your blog becomes more readable and with the aid of tools like the LJ friends list, other people become involved - reading and commenting.

What I find interesting is that the whole idea turns around at this stage. It's no longer where you post your secret thoughts, just those that you don't want to make the effort of actually discussing with a person. Those that might possibly interest someone, but that aren't worth the time and effort of sitting down over a pint. Also, it's used as a kind of "as needed" newsletter, for those who want to keep up to date with your life, and occasionally as a communication tool to organise events etc.

With this in mind, it's really the things that you're not posting about that tell your friends what's on your mind. From a mathematical point of view, the difference between the set of "things your friends know are affecting you" (A) over "things you're posting about" (B) leaves a set of "things that you don't really want the world to know" (X).

Or A/B=X, in set theory notation.

Er, that's bit bit indecipherable for most, maybe. Basically I'm trying to say that if you know what's going on in someone's life, it's probably the parts of that which aren't being held up to the world that are maybe bothering them or that they feel aren't resolved.

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From:rosabella
Date:October 12th, 2005 04:19 pm (UTC)
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Yes and no.

Public posts, definitely, they're wipe clean and sanitised.

And to a degree even friend-only posts are censored, when earlier posts that you don't think anyone really reads, - or anyone you know, anyway - aren't.

But sometimes the urge to censor yourself can be overcome.
I, at least sometimes, overcome my urge to censor myself. Especially when I'm tired. I'll write a long post about whatever is bothering me, as if it was private and no one is going to read it, then go through and check if there's anyone that really mustn't read it, and custom protect it so they can't, if necessary, and then post it. Even when it's stuff that I wouldn't necessarily tell the people that read it in person. So in a way it's *more* honest.

"It's no longer where you post your secret thoughts, just those that you don't want to make the effort of actually discussing with a person"
I guess how much and how honest you post depends on how much you discuss with people. I noticed recently, actually, the fewer heart-to-heart, spilling your guts, honest conversations I have with people, the more I post on my lj. I have about one person I feel able to just splurge at nowadays, and there's only so often you can splurge at the same person. So I talk to the internet instead. I can't figure out if that's more or less healthy... :p

Anyway, sorry, that was a long comment...

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From:missyfern
Date:October 13th, 2005 05:48 pm (UTC)
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It's something i've noticed. I keep a proper, paper diary, and readin through that can be a bit of a head-fuck at times. Often, i'll write something in that, then stick a sanitised version in my lj, and mark even that friends-only. My paper diary is really for getting things of my chest, and sometimes i'll go back through it to cross-reference feelings and make discoveries. This one is largely to keep me in touch with people, and be 'me me me' for a while.
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