Some important concepts in sex and gender|
|Date:||October 6th, 2009 08:10 pm (UTC)|| |
I have to say that I agree that the commodification of sex is bad, that the prospect of a 'performative' conception of sex is equally dangerous. Sex is already considered performative in some aspects, and it generally takes on a negative aspect - i.e. was she any 'good' in bed, was he able to 'perform' adequately, etc. There is also a risk in swinging too far in the opposite direction and causing an increased pressure for people to have sex in order to 'perform' better, (denigrating lack of experience) and causing more anxiety about being able to please one's partner, etc.
I mean, pleasing one's partner should be something to aim for, definitely, but the performative conception is still problematic.
Sleepy Heather is sleepy, but do you see what I'm sayin'? It has been bothering me since I read that first article.
I do see what you're saying, and while I agree with your concerns to some extent, I'm more comfortable with encouraging people to have safe (in terms of both contraception and choice of partner) frequent, good sex than to encourage them not to have sex, not enjoy it and/or not learn anything about it...