Some important concepts in sex and gender|
I think everyone ought to read this paper:http://books.google.com/books?id=NyicMIxzkUwC&pg=PA29&source=gbs_toc_r&cad=0_0#v=onepage&q=&f=false
It details why our culture's current model of sex is harmful, especially to women. It's really worth reading, digesting, and thinking about.
I found it referenced by this blog post:http://www.gamecritics.com/alex-raymond/women-arent-vending-machines-how-video-games-perpetuate-the-commodity-model-of-sex
The post is mostly about one new videogame, but it could easily be about many. It applies very well to the coverage of sex in videogames as a whole. It was referenced in turn by this post:http://shakespearessister.blogspot.com/2009/09/i-want-to-play-too.html
Which is a great stream of thought on one reason why women don't want to play your game - and why it's not something you can't fix.
I had a 7 man orgy in Fable 2.
Fable 2 is pretty close to "doin' it rite". You can try all you want with some people, but they just aren't interested, and there's a reasonable chance of you landing a member of the opposite sex, too.
It still feels like an achievement, though - there's certainly no romance in the "pose, pose, talk, pose, gift, pose, ring" method of marrying someone. Maybe Fable 3 could have a system whereby certain people (or heroes?) could actively try to woo you, too - instead of just dropping hints about how their friends keep asking them why they aren't married, and wouldn't a ring be nice?
Was going to offer Sims as an alternative, but i see the middle link got there first...
This is something i've tried explaining before, but thanks for the links because they put it more eloquently than i have been and i may be able to get through to some of my friends now :)
|Date:||October 6th, 2009 08:10 pm (UTC)|| |
I have to say that I agree that the commodification of sex is bad, that the prospect of a 'performative' conception of sex is equally dangerous. Sex is already considered performative in some aspects, and it generally takes on a negative aspect - i.e. was she any 'good' in bed, was he able to 'perform' adequately, etc. There is also a risk in swinging too far in the opposite direction and causing an increased pressure for people to have sex in order to 'perform' better, (denigrating lack of experience) and causing more anxiety about being able to please one's partner, etc.
I mean, pleasing one's partner should be something to aim for, definitely, but the performative conception is still problematic.
Sleepy Heather is sleepy, but do you see what I'm sayin'? It has been bothering me since I read that first article.
I do see what you're saying, and while I agree with your concerns to some extent, I'm more comfortable with encouraging people to have safe (in terms of both contraception and choice of partner) frequent, good sex than to encourage them not to have sex, not enjoy it and/or not learn anything about it...